It was only after Aurora Snow retired from porn that she was able to ask her dad how he really felt about her career choice.
When she finally did, she was blown away by his answer: “I was proud.”
Between 2000-2011, Snow was one of porn’s biggest celebrities, even earning a spot in the Adult Video News Hall of Fame earlier this year.
Since retiring, Snow has contributed regularly to the Daily Beast under her stage name, where she has interviewed many people about the porn biz.
She also has discussed how she will tell her children about her on-camera sex career.
But Snow avoided asking her own family the hard questions until recently, she writes in her latest column:
After nearly an hour on the phone, just as we were about to hang up, I mustered up the courage to ask, “Dad, how did you feel when you heard I was Aurora Snow?”
Then came an answer that blew me away: “I was proud.”
His reaction wasn’t always as generous. He admits to being initially angry when he first found out how she earned her money: when he heard her “making gagging noises” on “The Howard Stern Show.”
So she didn’t expect that answer.
Aurora: Were you shocked? I wasn’t exactly the type to end up in porn.
Dad: Yeah, I was shocked but I was proud. My daughter is Aurora Snow … when my friends found out they said, “Oh my god, that’s your daughter?!”
Aurora: And how did you handle that?
Dad: When they’d say, “How do you feel about your daughter being a porn queen?” I’d ask them how much money they’ve made having sex. None. They’d have to pay for it. So I’m like, “OK, you’d pay for it and my daughter makes hundreds of thousands of dollars having sex, so c’mon, if you could do that wouldn’t you?” That shuts ‘em up.
Aurora: So it wasn’t weird for you?
Dad: Not at all. I’m very proud of you.
Snow pressed her dad further on his reaction
He responded that he didn’t want to be a hypocrite.
“If I could’ve made hundreds of thousands of dollars having sex I would’ve done it, too,” he said. “I’ve bragged about you. How many people can say they’ve done what you’ve done?
“I’m proud to call you my daughter. It’s your life and you can do whatever you want with it and if you’re making your own choices that makes me happy.”
Discussing the porn industry with family members is one of the most difficult tasks an adult performer faces, as the very NSFW video below explains.
In it, Leah Gotti explains that her dad cut her out of the family after he found out she did porn, while Mick Blue’s parents asked for a VHS video of one of his films because his relatives wanted to watch.